I should not be allowed on the internet when I’m sick, sleepy, or both.
Je n’aime pas quand je chante quelque chose pour quelqu’un et après il a seulement les remarques négatives sur la qualité de ma voix (que la chanson a besoin d’une autre type de voix, d’habitude)…je ne peux pas changer ma voix pour une autre, et d’habitude quand je chante quelque chose ce n’est pas que je la présente comme un œuvre complet, c’est que j’ai appris quelque chose de nouveau et je l’ai voulu partager. Franchement il y a les gens qui savent pas faire les autres à l’aise ou bien ils veulent pas.
Si ma voix m’a forcé de trouver une autre façon, une autre interprétation, n’est pas un acte créatif?
Et pourquoi chanter si le seul ‘succès’ possible c’est d’imiter les autres?
En plus & en général je ne comprends pas les gens qui ne voient pas à quel but je suis timide de présenter les choses comme ça, et que leurs mots donnent moi le regret d’avoir rien partager avec eux. (Je veux dire les gens qui ont demander de voir/entendre au débuts, pas les étrangers).
"Male student, your unwanted advances and creepy staring are distracting the female students. Go home until you can get yourself together and have some self-control."
said no one, ever (via foxy-voxy)
I distinctly remember being on the receiving end of these stares, how unnerving and violating and - yes - distracting it was.
I like to have white or ambient noise playing while I study, so I thought I’d share a list of my favourite websites in case anyone else was interested.
- Rainymood - Allows you to play rain, with suggestions of ambient music to play at the same time. Has an iOS and Android app, my personal favourite.
- Calm - A visually beautiful website. Provides moving backgrounds and an option for guided calm which allows you to immerse yourself in the music and to relax. Has a free app for iPhone. Another one of my favourites.
- Showertime - The experience of taking a shower without the water. Allows you to control features such as length of shower, size of room, water pressure, etc.
- Coffitivity - The background noise of a coffee shop. Allows you to choose between different locations such as lunchtime lounge, morning murmur etc. Has an app for iOS and Android as well as a desktop app for OS X.
- Soundrown - A website with a sleek minimalist design, allows you to choose between rain, coffee shop, ocean, fire, bird noises, or a combination of the five.
- Relaxing Snow - Visually beautiful falling snow, the website gives you the opinion to play music with the scenery, or to choose your own.
- Raining.Fm - This website gives you the ability to adjust the rain to exactly how you’d like it, with options to tweak thunder, rain and storm noises. Has an app for iOS and Android, as well as a timer and snooze option.
- Rain For Me - Simple rain effects with the option to download the audio files for offline listening.
- Snowy Mood - Inspired by Rainy Mood, this website really makes you feel like it’s winter. Perfect for playing while snuggled up in a warm bed.
- Rainy Cafe - Combines the sounds of a bustling cafe setting with the sounds of drizzling rain. Allows you to select the volume of each setting, or turn one off completely.
Heading back to the city in sweats over dance tights & heeled maryjanes makes me feel like I’m on the way to rehearsal somewhere.
- Babyji by Abha Dawesar
- Blue Boy, by Rakesh Satyal
- Funny Boy, by Shyam Selvadurai
- Ode to Lata, Ghalib Shiraz Dhalla
- The Paths of Marriage, by Mala Kumar
- The Pregnant King, by Devdutt Pattanaik
- Quarantine, by Rahul Mehta
- She of the Mountains, by Vivek Shraya
- The Two Krishnas, by Ghalib Shiraz Dhalla
- The World Unseen, by Shamim Sarif
Non-Fiction & Anthologies:
- AIDS Sutra: Untold Stories from India, by Amartya Sen and various authors
- Because I Have A Voice: Queer Politics in India, edited by Arvind Narrain and Gautam Bhan
- Gay Bombay: Globalization, Love, and (Be)Longing in Contemporary India, by Parmesh Shahani
- Impossible Desires: Queer Diasporas and South Asian Public Cultures, by Gayatri Gopinath
- The Invisibles, by Zia Jaffrey
- A Lotus of Another Color, by Rakesh Ratti
- Love’s Rite: Same-Sex Marriage in India and the West by Ruth Vanita
- Made in India: Decolonializations, Queer Sexualities, Trans/National Projects, by Suparna Bhaskaran
- Same-Sex Love in India, edited by Ruth Vanita and Saleem Kidwal
- Sexual Sites, Seminal Attitudes: Sexualities, Masculinities and Culture in South Asia, by Sanjay Srivastava
- Shikhandi and Other Tales They Don’t Tell You, by Devdutt Pattanaik
- Queer Activism in India: A Story in the Anthropology of Ethics, by Naisargi Dave
- Queering India: Same-Sex Love and Eroticism in Indian Culture and Society, by Ruth Vanita
- With Respect to Sex: Negotiating Hijra Identity in South India, by Gaytri Reddy
News flash to men who get intimate with women:
We’re not usually complaining about your “performance,” we’re complaining about your total unwillingness to consider anyone’s experience but your own.
So stop talking about performance anxiety and “pressure” whenever a conversation is happening about why so many women are left unsatisfied by their intimate encounters with you.
After collapsing in exhaustion at 8:30, I woke up thirsty and as I was padding around the kitchen, I saw two certificates on the refrigerator: at his new school, my youngest brother makes the honor roll!
There are so (sooo) many songs by men talking about how they ~need~ to let women know they are beautiful. but. songs by women celebrating themselves are somehow conceited ?
Well, Shirin-Banou said that she likes it and shared it with all her friends, so it must not be too bad. :-)
*Comes back to tug on viperslang's apron strings*
(figuratively speaking - is probably a lab coat or some such)